Step 1: The Five Whys
Watch the video, and write your list of 5 goals… leaving space for your 5 Whys below each. After the video, journal all your whys.
Feel free to free write if any interesting thoughts bubbled up for you. Tell yourself you’ll start with one minute. Grow it to 5 if you’d like!
Step 2: Preparing for week 3
In the next Mod, we’re getting into negative self talk, and how to shift it. Starting today, write down all the rude, unfriendly, negative, and poisonous things you say to yourself. Write them down in your journal, or your notes app on your phone. Notice how often you say these things, even tally up the repeated sentiments. I’ll tell you how to turn these around in the next video. For now, just track - without judgement.
Examples of negative self talk:
I’ve always been fat, and I always will be.
I’ll never be one of those girls who can eat anything.
I shouldn’t be eating this, it’ll go straight to my thighs, love handles, belly, etc…
Nobody wants to hear my thoughts on this, I need to keep my mouth shut.
I’ve already eaten 2 doughnuts, I might as well eat whatever else I want today. I’m a total failure.
My skin is so splotchy. I’m so ugly.
I can eat a few bites because I worked out today. (this is a different form of negative self talk. It’s masked by a culturally accepted idea of healthy thinking). But it’s transactional worthiness.
Get the idea? Track it all!!!!! Once you really hear what you’re saying to yourself, you can break down the habit, and rebuild.
Each of these prompts can be done in their own session.
-When does my negative self talk come up most?
-Who said these things to me, or in front of me before I started saying them to myself?
-What am I good at?
-What do I value about myself? What do I value about life?