10 Signs Your Breakdown Is A Breakthrough Waiting To Happen

 Kahala Beach Park, Oahu

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You know those times when it seems like everything you've been working toward is failing miserably? It's as if your feelings seem to be amplified through millions of molecule sized megaphones?

As a full time new mom, and a full time owner of two new businesses, I'm still in the learning phase of balancing both parts of myself. Both separately, and together.

This time last week I had ALL the feelings imaginable. (Actually lots of people were feeling that new moon).

I felt like I was a total failure, headed down a steep path to ALL the failure in the universe.

I had suddenly come to the end of my ability to hold my sh** together in its gracefully decorated package: Me - showered, dressed, and hustling hard with a baby on my hip and a smile on my face. I didn't even realize how much I'd been feeling deep inside, for so long, until I began exploding words all overy my handsome boyfriend. Like a hero, he calmly listened to me release all of the things that weren't working.

Then, together we created a plan that would work. I needed regular, uninterrupted work hours, and we found a way to carve them out of the schedule for me.

What he and I both know is that feelings don't define reality. How you respond to feelings is what shapes your reality. I had a choice: celebrate misery, or build a logical path to guide my emotional state to peace.

I bought a big family calendar and filled it in. We took action together to create more clarity around what was not working, and what will work as we move forward in this crazy dance called life.

Below is my list of ways you can tell that you're on a break-through path, rather than being stuck in a paralyzing breakdown.

  1. You can see how fear has been holding back a truth that needs to escape for your sanity. You are willing to face that fear head on.

  2. You can trace the winding trail of feelings deep within you, back to love and self protection.

  3. You may hate being in the thick of it, but you know you must make your way through the ugly in order to put yourself in a new place.

  4. You are ready and willing to let go of old habits and “normals.”

  5. You are ready and willing to dive into the unknown.

  6. The list of what’s not working is pouring out of you like the influenza.

  7. You find yourself craving with your whole being to write the opposing list of what it is you need, and what will work.

  8. You genuinely want to free yourself more than you want to wake up each day living the comfortable norm that you’re drowning in.

  9. You already started writing those lists, so you can carve out the time and energy you need moving forward.

  10. You come back to your breath, love, and forgiveness. Letting go of hurt and anger, so the past can transform into the energy of strength, and the future can unfold from the embodiment of purity and grace.

If you made it through the list and it sounds amazing to be able to find the breakthrough in your breakdowns, but you're not sure how to navigate it on your own, click here. Sign up for your free Initial Consultation today.

Every challenge in your life (mine too), is an opportunity for change and growth. What we see, and how we handle everything comes down to perspective and choice. I would love to coach you as you begin your big shift in perspective.

You are worthy of love and abundance. I'm here to help you believe it so much you live it effortlessly.

Thanks for reading, make good choices, & talk soon! :)

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Your Body Is Not A Prison

 Embrace yourself as part of the magic. Photo Credit: Clifford Kanda.

Embrace yourself as part of the magic. Photo Credit: Clifford Kanda.

You are not a prisoner of your body.

Media and advertising would have you believing you are. Actually, convincing you of the imaginary wall called, “your body’s shortcomings,” is a multi-billion dollar industry. You may even work in advertising and still fall prey to the ever present message that you are lacking. Miserably.


You are not a prisoner of your body. You are not defined by your body. You are the life inside your body. If there’s anything that can be learned from the flower growing in the cracked concrete, it’s that life doesn’t accept imperfection and difficulty as an end all boundary. Rather, life seeks and finds the route that leads to opportunity and growth.

The walls of your body, your skin, and your limitations are obstacles specifically designed to be overcome by you. You are meant to find the crack.


You might be thinking, "Girl, I've only got one crack - and it's not exactly a door of opportunity!"

That's not the crack I'm talking about. ;)


Actually, let's get away from that metaphor... You are meant to embrace who you are and what you have. Fully. Deeply. Genuinely.

Make friends with your Self.


You’ll start to realize that what you lack cannot be bought. What you lack is not perfection. What you lack isn't even in the magazines.

The feeling of lacking comes from a deep need to connect with the Self, and to give from this pure place. To contribute meaningfully to society, and ultimately, to feel like you matter.


Making friends with your Self will dramatically change your expectations from your body. You will find that your body has likely been trying to speak to you for years about your truth.

Making friends with your Self doesn’t mean all your limitations melt away. It’s your perspective that melts into a new mold.


Your limitations, your pain, and your walls illuminate your greatest gifts once you find the right angle. It's from this angle that you'll see how you can really make a difference to those around you. This is where you'll find your path to passion, purpose, and belonging.

You are not a prisoner of your body.

Whatever your supposed flaw, however difficult the obstacle, the prison is in the mind.


The mind is the one who buys into the media. The mind is the one who decorates the merry-go-round of anxiety with webs of lies. The mind is the one who celebrates wallowing at the base of imaginary walls.

The mind is like the big brother who is not mature enough to be left in charge of the younger kids.


How does one escape? By deciding to overthrow the negative navigation of the mind. You escape when you decide to rebuild the pathways with heart based intentions - funded (of course) by taxes on the mind's wasteful use of anxiety.

Retrain your pathways with:

Breath, words of love, compassion, and friendship to your Self.


Assume your burdens, or symptoms are a conversations stemming from a place of love. "What is my body trying to teach me?" Ask yourself this question. Breath into it. Let it go, and refocus yourself on love several times a day. This creates a pathway for opportunity and growth - whereas, the mind tends to accept symptoms as a concrete slab.

Speak love into yourself until you know that your life is love. This may take weeks, months, or even years to fully set in. Start the conversation anyway.

This is how you set your Self free. This is how you learn to appreciate your body. This is how you can more fully embrace this life.

Your body: your friend, your teacher, your teammate =  your freedom.


This is not always an easy to go alone. If you want support in your journey to retrain the mind, visit my Consultations Tab for your free Initial Consultation. Underneath your obstacles, you'll find your greatest truth and joy. Let's uncover them!

Thanks for reading. Make loving choices. :)

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